Patch Pitch: Joys of Aging

I constantly read and hear about all of the good things associated with aging. It’s just that I can’t remember any of them right now.

It’s my birthday in a couple of weeks. Not one of the big milestone ones.   But, if you look at life as a mountain that offers you 100 years (provided I am being very optimistic), let’s just say I am getting awfully close to reaching the summit.

Despite the harsh reality of what confronts me in the mirror every day — especially in direct sunlight (yikes!) — I still regard myself as “16 with 31 years of experience.” Or, as Oakland Athletics’ batting coach Chili Davis once said, “Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional.” 

Harry Styles — teen boy-band (One Direction) heartthrob and rumored current paramour of singer, Taylor Swift had this to say about aging: “Age is a number.  But maturity is a choice.”  Considering Styles is only 18, I think it’s ludicrous he’s even trying to weigh in on the discussion.  (However, I do find some solace knowing Swift will somehow manage to hurl his poser quote back at him when she pens their break-up song.  Mark my soothsaying words.  In less than six months, we are going to be singing along to a new Taylor Swift song with that quote pouring forth from our lips while she is already putting a down payment on a house next to her new suitor.) 

Luckily for me, with the exception of a few developing aches and pains, I really don’t feel old.  Except maybe on those occasions (which are occurring far more frequently) where I try desperately to track down my glasses only to realize they are on my head.  Or the times I go to the freezer in the garage and open it, only to find out I have no recollection of what I had gone out there to retrieve in the first place.

This happens a lot to me in grocery stores, too.  Invariably, the one item that was my impetus for going to the store, remains the one item that fails to wind up in my shopping cart. And, I don’t realize it until after I get  home. So, I head back out only to have the ugly cycle repeat itself again.
Thus, I have begun to rely heavily on the notes feature of my iPhone.

All that aside, I constantly read and hear about all of the good things associated with aging.  It’s just that I can’t remember any of them right now.

So, Patch readers, help me out and tell us, “What do you enjoy most about growing older?  What do the golden years offer that we have to look forward to?

Kathleen Oakar November 30, 2012 at 01:43 AM
Oh this is easy! I am comfortable in my own skin! I know who I am and who I want to be! I also know I am a good person and I try to do my best every day. I don't need the validation, I think I may have once needed and I don't have the insecurities I did when I was younger! I no longer feel the need to please everyone. I no longer care if I'm not in the "in crowd" and sometimes, I even relish being on the outskirts! I was often heart broken about these things when I was younger and I can now look back and know full well things happen for a reason! With age comes wisdom! I married a Star Trek enthusiast - a good guy who I wouldn't have given a second thought to when I was 25 - sadly for this reason alone! I now know my mother was right! "Be nice to those geeky kids, some day you'll either be working for them or want to marry them!" I wish I knew then what I know now and I wish I could tell every teary eyed 16 year old girl with a crush who won't give her the time of day, things will turn out way better than she could ever dream!
Amanda M. Socci, Freelance Writer November 30, 2012 at 09:58 AM
Beth: I'm hoping your blog post was written tongue-in-cheek. In my own life, I'd never wish to be 21 again, no matter how skinny or cute I was back then. With age comes a great deal of wisdom from the many, many mistakes I've made. The lessons learned and knowing how NOT toget burned by social issues is the most comforting thing about again.
Isle D Belle November 30, 2012 at 04:07 PM
Beth, you made me laugh about the glasses (why I have a pair in every room), forgetting what I need from the garage refrig (it takes a minute to refocus) and the perils of not making a grocery list (even if it only has two things on it)! But it is true, I no longer care about so many of the things that used to make me crazy years ago. Not sure whether it's confidence or I just can't remember what those things are...


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