Teachers and Kids Don't Want Parents to Do These Things
It's that glorious time of year when kids have returned to school and their parents -- in a misguided attempt to support the transition -- start behaving very badly.
It’s that glorious time of year when kids have returned to school and their parents — in a misguided attempt to support the transition — start behaving very badly. At least that’s what a recent blog post has us believing after querying kids and teachers to find out some of the uncool things parents do that they shouldn’t.
Excerpted from the blog post are some of the DO NOT suggestions for parents, as offered by kids and teachers:
- Don’t go to back-to-school night and ask specific questions about your child right after the principal tells you not to do it. No one there wants to hear about your child.
- Don’t kiss, hug or otherwise show any affection to your middle-schooler when you drop him or her off at school, bring cake into class for his or her birthday or any other time if other children are present. At about 10 to 11 years old — or fifth to sixth grades — kids think that pretty much anything their parents do is embarrassing. Don’t make things worse by doing something embarrassing in front of other kids.
- Adults should not tell teenagers that they need to be asleep by 11 p.m., and they should stop pretending that it makes sense for high school to start early in the morning. It is indisputably true that for biological reasons, teenagers have a different sleep cycle from people both younger and older than they are, says sleep expert Helen Emsellem, author of Snooze . . .Or Lose!” That means that it is nearly a biological impossibility for them to get to sleep before 11 p.m. or even midnight. The National Sleep Foundation says that teenagers require about nine hours of sleep every night — but only 8 percent actually get it, and, in fact, as much as two-thirds get less than seven hours of sleep a night.
- No matter how wealthy you are, do not let your child drive a new Mercedes, an Audi sports car or a snazzy convertible to school. Other luxury cars apply, too. Kids need to learn how to work for their toys. If you expect them to work hard in school toward their futures, they shouldn’t have fancy cars handed to them. Also, everybody else at school will pretend to like your child but pretty much won’t.
- Don’t do your kids’ homework for them.
- Don’t drink, smoke pot or pop Ecstasy with your kids, and don’t let them have parties and pretend they aren’t draining your alcohol cabinet.
- Don’t send a nasty e-mail to a teacher, even if a teacher does something legitimately annoying.
- Don’t try to solve your college-age students’ problems for them. Don’t call intern coordinators to complain about student internships, don’t get in the way of roommate disputes (unless there is criminal behavior going on) and never, never, never e-mail the school president to complain about parking issues. Or, in fact, just about anything else. Let kids start owning their own lives and solving their own problems. It’s time for helicopter parents to stay grounded.
So, tell us Patch readers (especially you teachers and kids out there), what other “egregious” school-year behaviors do you see parents committing? And/or, what's your advice for parents in order to ensure kids have a good school year?